Self-healing has much to do with believing in yourself. When I was
diagnosed with myasthenia gravis some
three decades ago, I was confident that the doctor could cure me. But later on
I found out that he could only suppress the disease symptoms, then I began to
turn to holistic healing, and I believed that I could do more than just
suppressing the symptoms. For more than two decades, I would not say that I am
100 percent cured, but at least I am now 100 percent drug free. I still feel and
experience some muscle weakness every now and then.
The bottom line: believing in yourself is critical to self-healing.
But believing in
yourself is easier said than done
When you were young,
you believed in anything and everything—even in the fairies.
However, as you grew older, you became more skeptical, and you might have even
stopped believing in yourself. But it is important that you believe in
yourself, especially as you continue to age. Believing in yourself holds the
key to successful aging.
Believing in yourself is confidence in
your own ability, knowing what you have to do to win or simply to get what you
want in life.
Believing in
yourself is one of the first steps to success.in doing anything that
becomes the substance of your confidence. To have confidence, you must set
goals, and achieving your goals helps you build more confidence.
The only stumbling
block to believing in yourself is your inability to achieve: some of your goals
at some points in your life. This stumbling block may create negativity in the
form of victimization. In other words, you may find you are a victim of
circumstances; this may also lead to bitterness, despair, or even anger.
Setting goals and
having expectations are not the same. According to the ancient wisdom of Tao,
(Tao is The Way, which is the profound wisdom of Lao Tzu, an
ancient Chinese) expectations often become the stumbling blocks to
accomplishing your goals. Why? The explanation, according to Lao
Tzu, is that .the greater the expectations, the more efforts you will
exert, and the more stressed you become—ironically enough that may lead to
failure in achieving your goals. What Lao Tzu would recommend is “doing what
needs to be done” but no more and no less, and with “no expectation”.
There was the
story of a drawing competition in which candidates were asked to draw a snake.
One candidate finished his drawing well ahead of others. Thinking that he would
get extra credit, he added a few beautiful legs to the snake he had drawn. As a
result, he became disqualified in the competition. The moral of the story is
that enough is enough, and more than enough may not be good.
Believing in
yourself—with “no over-doing” and “no expectation”—holds the key to setting
your goals and accomplishing some of them despite some drawbacks to build up
your confidence, which is necessary for success in doing anything in your life.
Stephen
Lau
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Stephen Lau
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